Etwas verspätet zum Weltkrebstag, der am 4. Februar war, eine Anmerkung von Steven Strum, was den einen 'Exceptional Cancer Patient' ausmacht:
• After the initial numbness wears off, the ECaP gets to work.
• He recognized that he is at a critical juncture in his life, and that he must step up to the plate to meet it. This is not the doctor's cancer, but his.
• He will be a victor and not a victim.
• He will be assertive in interacting with the medical profession but not rude.
• He sees his family, and friends, and co-patients along with physicians as constituting a team, who work in concert.
• He recognizes that physicians are not deities, and should not make decisions for him, but should treat, aid and counsel him and his team based on knowledge, expertise and experience.
• The ECaP seeks the finest possible team, and is willing to travel and/or incur additional expense in order to receive optimal care.
• He educates himself, does his "homework" and is willing to read and learn, availing himself or his medical team of the power of computer technology.
• He doesn't regard his cancer as a "separate thing" that "happened" to him, but as a consequence of many complex processes affecting the entire mind-body complex.
• He realizes that treating cancer will now become part of the entire process of healing the mind and body, and that everything in health is interconnected.
• The ECaP is willing to make changes in life-style and habits to improve his prognosis.
• The ECap, despite all the strengths above, is aware of his need to reach out for help and for the support from others. He knows that a man has to be aware of his limitations.
• He makes sure that his life doesn't become only about the cancer, and understands that pleasure is essential.
• The ECap immerses himself in love—of family, friends, online helpers, support groups, and religious congregations.
• The ECaP "pays it forward" by giving unto others as they have given to him.
• The man with PC often relates to others that the diagnosis of prostate cancer was the best thing that ever happened to him—that it altered his sense of what and who were important in his life, and how much he had taken for granted. Out of this crisis with cancer have come opportunities to reach new levels of intimacy with his significant other(s), and to communicate and act at an evolved level, one that he had never imagined possible prior to his diagnosis.
• He recognized that he is at a critical juncture in his life, and that he must step up to the plate to meet it. This is not the doctor's cancer, but his.
• He will be a victor and not a victim.
• He will be assertive in interacting with the medical profession but not rude.
• He sees his family, and friends, and co-patients along with physicians as constituting a team, who work in concert.
• He recognizes that physicians are not deities, and should not make decisions for him, but should treat, aid and counsel him and his team based on knowledge, expertise and experience.
• The ECaP seeks the finest possible team, and is willing to travel and/or incur additional expense in order to receive optimal care.
• He educates himself, does his "homework" and is willing to read and learn, availing himself or his medical team of the power of computer technology.
• He doesn't regard his cancer as a "separate thing" that "happened" to him, but as a consequence of many complex processes affecting the entire mind-body complex.
• He realizes that treating cancer will now become part of the entire process of healing the mind and body, and that everything in health is interconnected.
• The ECaP is willing to make changes in life-style and habits to improve his prognosis.
• The ECap, despite all the strengths above, is aware of his need to reach out for help and for the support from others. He knows that a man has to be aware of his limitations.
• He makes sure that his life doesn't become only about the cancer, and understands that pleasure is essential.
• The ECap immerses himself in love—of family, friends, online helpers, support groups, and religious congregations.
• The ECaP "pays it forward" by giving unto others as they have given to him.
• The man with PC often relates to others that the diagnosis of prostate cancer was the best thing that ever happened to him—that it altered his sense of what and who were important in his life, and how much he had taken for granted. Out of this crisis with cancer have come opportunities to reach new levels of intimacy with his significant other(s), and to communicate and act at an evolved level, one that he had never imagined possible prior to his diagnosis.
- Nachdem die anfänglichen Ohnmacht nachlässt, beginnt der ECAP zu arbeiten.
- Er erkannte, dass er an einem kritischen Punkt in seinem Leben ist, und er sich der Herausforderung stellen muss. Dies ist nicht der Krebs seines Arztes, sondern sein eigener.
- Er wird ein Sieger und kein Opfer sein.
- Er wird bestimmt in der Interaktion mit der Ärzteschaft, dabei aber nicht unhöflich sein.
- Seine Familie, Freunde und andere Patienten zusammen mit den Ärzten bilden ein Team.
- Er erkennt, dass Ärzte keine Gottheiten sind, und keine Entscheidungen für ihn treffen sollten, aber ihn behandeln und mit Rat und Hilfe ihm und seinem Team auf Basis von Wissen, Know-how und Erfahrung zur Seite stehen.
- Der ECAP sucht möglichst das beste Team, und ist bereit, zu reisen und/oder zusätzliche Kosten zu tragen, um eine optimale Versorgung zu erhalten.
- Er erzieht sich selbst dazu seine "Hausaufgaben" zu machen, und ist bereit, zu lesen und zu lernen, wobei er und sein medizinisches Team die Macht der Computer-Technologie in Anspruch nimmt.
- Er betrachtet seinen Krebs nicht als eine "getrennte Sache", welche sich "zufällig" bei ihm ergab, sondern als Folge von vielen komplexen sich beeinflussenden Prozessen des gesamten Körper/Geist-Komplexes.
- Er erkennt, dass die Behandlung von Krebs nun Teil des gesamten Prozesses werden wird den Körper und Geist zu heilen, und dass alles im Bereichen Gesundheit miteinander verbunden ist.
- Der ECAP ist bereit, Änderungen seines Lebensstils und seiner Gewohnheiten durchzuführen um seine Prognose zu verbessern.
- Dem ECaP ist, trotz aller Stärken die Notwendigkeit bewusst, sich um Hilfe und Unterstützung von anderen bemühen zu müssen. Er weiß, dass ein Mann sich seiner Grenzen bewusst sein sollte.
- Er sorgt dafür, dass sich sein Leben nicht nur um den Krebs dreht, und versteht, dass die Freude am Leben unerlässlich ist.
- Der ECaP festigt seine Zuneigung in der Familie, bei Freunden, Online-Helfern, Selbsthilfegruppen und Religionsgemeinschaften.
- Das ECAP tut anderen Gutes, so wie sie es ihm gegeben haben.
- Ein Mann mit Prostatakrebs erklärt anderen häufig, das die Diagnose von Prostatakrebs das Beste war, was ihm passiert wäre, denn es hat seinen Sinn dafür, was und wer in seinem Leben wichtig sind, verändert, und wie viel er für selbstverständlich hielt. Aus dieser Krise mit Krebs haben sich Chancen ergeben, ein neues Maß an Vertrautheit mit seinem Lebensgefährten zu erreichen, und auf einer Ebene zu kommunizieren und zu handeln, die er, vor seiner Diagnose, nie für möglich gehalten hätte.
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